Dear friends, 

Being human is never easy. Raising kids is complicated. We are not meant to be on our own and we are at our best when we are surrounded by community. Studies over the past twenty years have pointed out that North Americans are spending more time alone (and on screens) and less time with others. We participate in fewer sports teams and service groups, rarely invite friends over for a meal, and mostly stay home on Sunday mornings. There are lots of reasons for these shifts, but it is worth taking a look at our lives, and considering where we might be missing out on community and connection.

It might seem obvious that as a minister I would suggest trying out church as a way to find community and connection. But I have had times in my life when a worship service was not my favourite place to be. But lately, I can not speak highly enough about the simple act of attending Sunday morning worship. It is a place where we are reminded that we are loved, we are not alone, and we are part of the messy business of being people together. Contrary to popular opinion, you do not need to have it together to go to church, no one else at church is perfect. We take time to re-orient ourselves towards God, ask for forgiveness for what we have done wrong, hear stories from scripture that carry truth, bring God our sorrows and burdens, and do all of this together. Sometimes the singing is great, sometimes it is not, but it is something we do together.

Eugene Peterston, a theologian, when asked about how to find a church, would often say to find the closest and the smallest. (You might also want to see if a church is affirming of 2SLGBTQIA+ people or allows women to be leaders or is accessible).  Most churches are thrilled to welcome families, and even if there aren't many children, the members will become grandparents and aunts and uncles to your children. Most churches are connected to the needs of their communities, and there will be a way to contribute and make a difference. Maybe not every Sunday, but certainly over time, God's presence and love will be experienced.

Peace, Theresa